Going back to why I wrote a book. I developed a system that I found worked wonderfully for my diverse busy situation. I had friends that would 'vent' about their situations, so I started to share it with them. My husband Scott pushed me to write this down to A cut down on my phone time explaining and B to extend the help to others outside of my friendship circle. So began my journey. Last week I shared Parent in Peace with a neighbor at her request. Her children are grown but she loves to read. When she came over to give it back to me, she said of course she loved it and that since she has read it she is noticing how ineffective parents are with their children. She went on to explain a particular incident at Sears. It was such an "ah-ha" moment for me because a woman who is done with her child years of parenthood could see how this can make a difference. It was very inspiring.
Then, Cassidy my daughter came home from school one day last week after being kicked at school several times by a boy in her class. She was so upset and rightly so..but the key thing here is he never got in trouble at school. I had a meeting at her school about this and that was my main question..WHY..Why does this boy think a physical action is a resolution. I know.. he is not taught at home or school how to handle these situations. Bullying is a very big problem around the country now and we as parents NEED to show our children that physical and mental bullying is not the way to be a friend.
Please understand being a mom or dad is the easy part, being a parent is where the sleeves need to be rolled up and the work begins. This hard work doesn't end until they move out of the house. I am not saying that you need to make all the decisions for your children and put them in a bubble. What we need to do as parents is give our children the tools to make the right decisions and to be an asset to their schools/community and this parents requires WORK. Ultimately it is your choice.. give them the tools or not?
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