Avoiding an action because of the REACTION

I was told my someone who edited my book to never start a sentence with-- Ok, I must confess.... He said it gives your readers a lack of confidence in you. I see his point but really.. we are all parents here and trying to raise our children. So, here goes...
OK, I MUST CONFESS>>>>
I have been having more attitude from my 9 yr old daughter than normal. Now, she is a very good girl. However, for her norm, she was acting out a bit. I was really feeling like I was missing something. Was something going on with her.. she did have a hard time in school with some bullies. But, wait, it is summer time and she is still having attitude. Then it hit me.. I was not consistantly giving her consequences. WHY??? Well, she is my cryer, if you remember from my book... she had worked out a little system where she started crying hysterically when she got a consequence saying repetedly.. I'm so so sorry. Well, being the tough nut I am, she did get that consequence.. but it trained me to start to ignore some things because my mind did not want to deal with this crying. This is nothing I planned to do, it just happened. I just realized this!
So, what does one do to fix this behavior on my part and hers? What does one do to undo this pattern? I don't want to feel like I need to avoid giving a consequence because I am afraid of her reaction.. I never planned to do that. It was like a reflex..possible old habits? I don't know but my goal is to undo this...

So, my plan is- I am calling a safe space meeting tonight. I am going to go over The Consequence System again and holding a mock session to show her how this will go...what is acceptable and not accceptable behavior. I will include Kyle in this meeting- not that he needs to see that but he is part of our family. I will explain to her that she can cry, but she needs to go to her room to cry and then she can come out and get her consequence. She likes to serve her consequence right away if possible, so she can do it then. While we are in this meeting we will be going over summer chores and summer rules etc. I don't know about you, but my house is much messier in the summer- so I will also be adding some consequences :-))
So, my ending thought for today is that parenting is an ever evolving process.. we must be like camelions...change to our environment, shed old skin that is no longer necessary, grow new tails when needed, etc..

Don't keep this to yourself....Make it a movement- pass this on:
PARENT IN PEACE